Man, I just read this wonderful post one of my best friends wrote. He's been pining over a breakup for a really long time, and he's one of those people who pour their souls out onto paper and aren't actually afraid to show it, and I respect him greatly for that. I don't think I'd be able to do that. I generally look for the smallest darkest corner that no one would even think of looking in, and hide until I compose myself.
He talked about this myriad of guys who have been disappointed somehow in such a way, that they have lost faith, so they drive away any girl who might actually care about them. and just generally treat them as disposables because they are afraid to get "attached." but at the same time they want to find the one that will make it all better.
But isn't it the same for us girls? We get curious, so we start dating, and fall in love with that first guy. The unforgettable one, that inevitably breaks our heart, but we forgive him anyways because he kind of opened that door that we were afraid to open. Then comes guy after guy, some of them jerks, others something else, but all of them wrong in the end. And we loose faith too. There comes that "slutty" period, the time when everything goes, and nothing matters. Of course the magnitude of 'everything' depends on the person and situation, but the general tendency is the same. Usually, at some point you get tired. for some it's earlier, for others later, but you start looking for something real. Now, the real trick is where to find that.
Just like every guy, every girl wants to find a man to balance her life. Someone, who'll accept everything about her, and make her feel just like that. One who would come to her rescue when she needs to be rescued. Or just one whom she can love with all her being and who will love her back the same way. But when you look around, all there seems to be are those disillusioned jerks. (and disillusioned jerk-ettes.)
all of this raises the question: Why the hell do we torture each other, if all we want is the same thing?
Very true. I think this is why we treat each relationship that actually has any promise as a sort of a small miracle. Because It happened against so many odds (disillusionment etc.). By the way, I am glad you like my post.
ReplyDeleteLetting someone in allows that person to affect you more, whether that's in a happy or sad way. Naturally, most people are reluctant to let others in, since they're afraid of getting hurt. I think the torturesome part is when people treat others as the "disposables" you mentioned, just because they're conflicted between not getting hurt and still wanting to be with somebody. Fear is the torture, I guess.
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